There's this hot girl who may be interested in me. I'm not telling you this to brag, especially considering the number of hot girls who have liked me can be counted on one hand with three amputated fingers. But a hot girl may like me, and it's exciting. Sadly, I have a mental block against dating hot girls because of one seemingly insurmountable problem: A hot girl has been treated like royalty by guys her entire life.
Hot girls have been called "beautiful" countless times, they've been taken on the fanciest dates, they've been properly courted, they've had hunks all over them. There seems to be nothing I could give hot girls that they haven't already received. But that's not even my biggest problem. My biggest problem is that I constantly cheat on girls with a mistress named "med school". Why should a hot girl put up with a guy who cheats on her when she has plenty of great guys waiting in line who can treat her so much better?
Therefore, I'm always on the lookout for a girl who only I think is hot. I'm looking for a girl who has been called "beautiful" by just a few guys, not all of them. And when those few guys told her she was beautiful, they meant it with every atom of their being. They meant it so much it hurt.
I found her. She is on the tu tennis team, and she was playing a match against an Aggie. The match had come down to a third-set tie-break. The winner of their match would decide what team would move on to the Big XII finals to face Baylor, so there were about 500 people watching them play. Needless to say, these two girls had the weight of the world on their shoulders.
When the tu girl won a point, she didn't cheer for herself. When she lost a point, she didn't scold herself. She simply walked to the other side of the baseline, thinking only of the next point. She never looked panicked, and she never looked like she doubted herself, even for a moment. She went on to win the match. Her composure was the hottest thing I've ever seen.
In what I expected to be an obvious comment, I mentioned to the guys I was with that the tu girl was gorgeous. But my fellow spectators seemed pretty indifferent about her, making her all the more desirable to me.
I don't think I'm a creep (contrary to what my last blog post might suggest), but there is no way I can contact this tennis babe without looking like the King Creep. And unfortunately, in a compulsive act of bravery, I sent her a brief facebook message explaining how much I enjoyed watching her match. I've been checking facebook four to five times per day, hoping for a response. But the logical part of me knows a response will never come, leaving me with the tragic memory of a perfect girl whose flawlessness was seen only by me.
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18 comments:
If it does ever work out, I would promptly delete this post. I am probably one of those girls who is not commonly told she's beautiful, but who has heard it on occasion in a meaningful way - we don't want to be told by those who think we're beautiful that most people disagree. It sort of negates the positive feeling one is supposed to get from such a compliment.
Although I am a regular reader of the "Why, Justin, Why" blog, I never make comments. This is a momentous occasion - it is my first anonymous comment. Whether your recent post is what provoked me to post... or the fact I'm looking for any excuse not to study for my finals is irrelevant. At any rate, I wanted to play a little devil's advocate. It seems that you've written off these "widely known" beautiful girls as untouchables or worst yet...unworthy of your attention because they have "enough." Although I by no means fall in the category of being considered beautiful by all, I think you are mislabeling these girls who do. Usually, the decent guys don't go after them for all the reasons you listed - leaving them to the lame-o's who are often cocky and vapid. If you don't want to date a well-known beautiful girl b/c of some valid reason, then ok. But I don't think the fact they get courted by others is enough - seems like a defense mechanism to me...
Irregardless, hope something happens with the tu tennis girl...although could you get past the fact she's a longhorn?
I really would expect more from you Justin. A t-sip?!?!
And I ditto what Angie says...I'm one of those people that have only been told a few times.
Anonymous-
Please come around more often. You have brought to my attention a definite defense mechanism of mine. This is especially humbling considering I'm widely known as the Defense Mechanism Spotting King.
Irregardless isn't a word. Regardless means the same thing.
The phrase "King Creep" made me laugh out loud. I think it reminded me of King Vitamin, which is a hilarious cereal.
Irregardless is a word. Hooray for the adaptability of language!
"To be or not to be, that is the question."
vulf, i'm all for chasing the facebook dream babe, but at least entertain the notion that the hottie who wants you might not be a stereotype. at worst, she becomes fodder for your prolific blogging.
oh, and girls saying that they aren't told they're pretty makes me uneasy. am i alone on that?
I think the lesson that should be learned here is that every guy should go out and tell one of their girl friends that they are beautiful today.
I dislike most women
I (basically) agree with anonymous. You’re a little presumptuous, Justin!! (But that’s okay – women like that in a man.)
Some of my hottest friends are ones who have never been "properly courted." I guess all their would-be suitors figured someone else was already taking care of that...interesting.
And one more thing - I totally agree with jcoggins. GIVE THE HOTTIE A CHANCE!!! (Unless she turns out to be a snobby B, in which case, drop her like she's not hot.)
that was a creep move...but i do love watch me some tennis. solves all of lifes great problems.
good luck Kellens friend.
so...did you ever hear back from her???
Yes, the readers are dying to know, has anything come from this? You hear back from her!?
It sounds to me like you have convinced yourself that you don't deserve someone who is beautiful? Maybe you have some deep seeded low self esteem issues stemming from a childhood encounter with a beautiful girl. The one all the other boys liked. There you were, playing Pogs, and you asked to see her slammer. She said "No, King Creep!". The others begin to chortle. Across the room, Average Anne is reading Sarah, Plain and Tall (coincidence?). You lock eyes, she grins, thus sealing your tarnished view of awesome hot girls forever?
Just a guess.
Ok --I just found your blog through Niedless to say...I also have an opinion about this subject and I am gonna risk being vulnerable and ridiculed...And I am in NO WAY claiming to be hot...but I have been told NUMEROUS times that I come off intimidating and I really don't know what to tell people to do about it---and I always say it sounds like a personal problem to me...because I honestly don't know how to fix it not that I would ever want to either because then I would comprimise my authentic self...but I have observed a few things in my thirty some odd years of life...I think one of the "Loneliest" people groups are these "widely known beautiful" girls that you speak of...because most girls are jealous of them and don't want to be there friend because of their own insecurities and most of the guys (like your self) are TOO "intimidated" because of their own issues...having assumed that they are vain, superficial, and too in to them selves to ever consider a "regular joe"....which in turn leaves the really socially unaware and awkward and the for real "King Creeps" out there to "Hover"....SO my advice to you is to swallow your pride and stop being so passive about it--be the "MAN" you dream to be and the one GOD designed you to be and stop whining about on your blog it and step it up and PURSUE her...would rejection really wound you that badly? And if it did... GOD would use it "sanctify you through and through"--so that you would know him deeeper---Just Buck up and tell her...Sorry if this came across a bit harsh or insensitive...not my intention at all!!Good luck!
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