Yes, I own a pair of "designer" jeans. I have some Diesel shoes I really like (thanks Jon), and, if I’m really trying to impress the babes, I’ll style my hair with some Got2B Glued (product courtesy of Josh Langston). I’ve even been guilty of shaving my chest hair and lying out at the pool for a tan (although you wouldn’t know it looking at me).
What's next? Emo glasses? Maybe the form-fitting, vertical-striped button downs?
When did men stop being men?
A few months ago, I asked my grandma to tell me about Grandpa (he died when I was young). She told me he "worked hard, fed his children, and never spent a dollar on himself.” That, to me, is what a real man is. A husband should be valued by his wife for his masculinity, logical thinking, practicality, desire to sacrifice for her, ability to provide for the family, candidness, dependability, athleticism, leadership, strength of character, physical strength, courage, sexual passion, etc.
To me, fashion sense (metrosexuality) has no place on this list, yet somehow men have made it a priority. Why? Because women take notice of it and respond positively to it. Why, Women, Why???
Maybe I’m a hypocrite. I, along with most warm-blooded men, enjoy seeing women in cute clothes. Beauty, softness, and graceful bodies have been highly valued in women throughout the ages. But I will say this: Nothing sends me running faster than a woman who spends exorbitantly on her wardrobe. It's not only scary that she would spend money so carelessly, but it's also scary to think that she places this much value in something so insignificant. Note to those women: Unless your husband makes an absurd amount of money, you will fight with him about this throughout your marriage. Change your habits now. Additionally, any excess money can be better spent on feeding the poor, giving to mission trips, or donating to the 12th Man foundation to improve A&M's athletic facilities.
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Oh how I would love to see you in those jeans.
1) You in a vertical striped shirt? We all know what that means!
2) You shaved your chest hair? Hahahaha.
3) There are tons of biological explanations for the “feminization of man.” Perhaps the reason men are becoming more “metrosexual” is because the Y chromosome is shedding genes. Genetics experts say that all men may become sterile in about 125,000 years because of the wasting away of the Y chromosome. (And we know that women are the default sex so if anything goes wrong, you’re sexually a woman.) Also, the more adipose tissue people have, the more they aromatize androgens to estrogen, right? So, as American men become more fat, they also become more feminine. Ho ho ho.
3) And why shouldn’t men have fashion on their list to attract girls? The MALE peacocks are the ones who have the beautiful tail feathers full of color. If they see a pretty lady-peacock, they fan out their feathers and attract her attention. Why aren’t guys allowed to similarly fan out their hair or get a girl’s attention with a nice shirt? Just like a blue and green flannel shirt does not a boy a man make, an aqua polo shirt doesn’t eradicate manliness. So, yes, a woman should value her husband for the qualities you listed, but if initially he needs to get her attention with his cute butt in tight jeans so that she may fall in love with him for his manly qualities, then so be it.
4)You say that a girl who spends lots of money on her clothes scares you because she puts value on something so “insignificant.” You feel that way because your parents had certain priorities and you were raised with them (clothing not being one of them). While I agree with you, I also understand that everyone ranks the categories differently. Some may wish to spend money on a nice house for their family, others on a vacation, others on cars, others on their wardrobe, etc. Someone who sees clothing as important may think a grand house or a trip to the beach with the family is “insignificant.” So, it’s not fair to judge someone on how they choose to spend their disposable income. And, if they marry someone with similar priorities, the expenditures won’t necessarily be a marital fight.
And now I can't remember what the point to all of this was. Maybe just running commentary?
Justin, how I have missed such wisdom. You have hooked me as an avid reader. How did society let the Machismo way of thinking turn into a negative?
I'm not a peacock. I'll pursue a woman so hard with things other than clothes and amazing smelling cologne.
People will spend their money as they wish. A nice vacation is not comparable to nice clothes. Memories from a vacation will last... fashion will not. Insignificance, I'll grant, is relative; but over the long run, we all can agree that any relationship based on external, material things is a shitty relationship.
Reading this makes me think of the time you shved your legs at camp. You are funny and I have to admit that I enjoy these blogs.
I don't know who this white girl Casey is, but I take issue with her points, namely #3 and #3(she had two #3 points).
her first #3)I say the feminization of man is completely cultural. Over the past thousands of years guys have gone from doing feminine guys and boys for kicks (think Roman times), to masculinity being en vogue, and back again countlessly. I don't really have time to make a decent arguement on this because I'm at work, but I just wanted to voice my disagreement.
her second #3)She defends the point on men having fashion on their list to attract girls by citing peacocks!?!?! Lady, I don't know if you haven't noticed, but peacocks are naked. What they are using to attract females is home-grown on their bodies. Now, I would love for males to be able to use our natural "plumage" to attract females, but cultural boundaries won't allow that. Its just not a valid comparison, too many variables between humans and birds that throw it off. If you want to use monkeys, I can handle that.
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